Why Motivation is Not Enough
- By Anthony Butkovic
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- 28 Jan, 2020
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Why Changing This One Thing Makes All The Difference.
Have you ever witnessed a motivational speaker in action? Perhaps recall a movie that created a lot of emotion inside of you to make a change. Maybe you collect quotes of inspiring messages. And yet…
Life is the same.
I was having a conversation with a friend of mine the other day. He said:
"You know Anthony I don't understand something. I went to see this motivational speaker and I was all jacked up ready to take on the world and the next day it was business as usual. What happened?"
As I sat there pondering the question I realized what the missing link was. It came down to one word.
BELIEFS.
What does that mean? I will get to that in a second. Let me take a moment to explain something first though.
I too have sat in a seminar with a motivational speaker and had that same charge. I've watched a movie and felt like I could do something special. I've listened to podcasts on my morning run that reminded me how great things are. Then hours later I was back at the grind.
But…
I then thought about what makes a person see a photo, hear a speech, or feel the impact of an event and profoundly make a change in their life. A change that not only impacts their life, but perhaps makes a change in the community or the world. What makes someone act?
It's their belief about themselves, an issue, their circumstance, or something. There is a "something" that shifts within them and changes the way they believe about their abilities. That they do have or can find what they need to succeed or make a change.
Perhaps you remember something like this before. A person is going through a terrible trial. They are about to give up. Throw in the towel. Quit. When someone comes to them, and speaks into their life. Often reminding them of who they are and what they have within them. That person can also help them shift their view of the trial so now they see possibility. They see the fight isn't over. Their belief shifts and they continue on.
You can read all the quotes, and watch the movies, but until you make that shift within you, it's just entertainment. A feel good story. Think about a time when you were able to make that shift. Many times it's a negative event that shifts us from thinking confidently or being happy to doubting ourselves or stealing our joy.
There is a way to shift back. There is a way to find that joy again. That drive. That before you are counted out or throw in the towel you give one more push to achieve what you want.
When I work with an athlete, coach, or anyone, I do so in order to help them find the true belief within them. To look past fears and lies to get that life they always wanted.
When you feel motivated, take a look inside and transform that motivation into a belief. If you're not sure how to do this. Call me. Together we can change your outlook, the outcome, and you….to the person that you were always meant to be.
If there was ever a time this happened to you. I want to hear about it. Email me at: anthony@butkoviclifecoaching.com and tell me about it.
Most of us are either living in the past or the future. Many of us forget about today. This day. This moment. Why does it take something drastic to happen in our lives for us to focus in the moment?
You know what I am talking about. You could be sitting there worrying about something that happened yesterday. Perhaps you're thinking about tomorrow and what needs to happen. Perhaps you're experiencing anxiety or sadness….and then it happens.
The "it" can be anything:
- A phone call
- A sound
- An accident
- A meeting
- You see something
Whatever it is, it interrupts your thoughts of yesterday and tomorrow and brings you to this moment today. Right now you are no longer thinking of yesterday and tomorrow because this event is forcing you to deal with what's happening today.
The event that causes you to drop everything and be there for someone or something.
What has caused you to shift your focus? What's caused the thought of yesterday and tomorrow to be forgotten while you deal with right now?
It's the stimulus. If it's big enough or profound enough to you, you will change your focus. Think about this. You're sitting there depressed and sad. A friend calls you and asks you to come out with them for dinner. You now have a decision to make to accept or decline the invitation.
However…
The same friend calls you and says your best friend was in a bad accident and is headed for the hospital, in most cases, people will forget their sadness and rush to be at the hospital with their friend.
The stimulus was significant enough to get our attention and refocus so we can act. The strategies I use helps you find the stimulus within you to create the change you want in life. Together we will look inside and pull out that inner person that needs to be present to enjoy the moment you're in right now.
Have you ever heard of someone describing something amazing in their life when they were fully present? The say things like: "I can't describe it" "I can't put into words how I feel" "I don't know what you call it, but I just know"
It's a feeling. When you are fully in that moment it's a feeling. At the end of the day that's what we're trying to change. How we feel. In our session I will give you the awareness to recognize how you are currently feeling. What's causing/controlling those feelings and then how to change what needs to be changed in order for you to achieve the feelings you want.
Moments are a measure of time. Something we a people created.
Life is made up of moments. These can be moments that made us laugh, cry, achieve, fail, impact us, remember, or forget.
Depending on the situation or the interpretation, moments can define or destroy us.
What I have found interesting is how we look at this value of time. How we as a people speak about it and interpret it.
I will often hear people say: "when that happened, my life was changed in a moment." Yet they are always referencing it in a negative way. They are stuck in the moment.
The moment:
- He/She left me
- When that person died
- When that accident occurred
- When I was hit with (news, fist, etc)
- You find yourself saying "And just like that…."
I find this personally fascinating because when I speak to these same people they can recall the event in their life when they felt their lives changed in the moment, but when I ask them…
"Can you change your life in a moment?"
Almost everyone says no. Almost everyone can admit life can change in a moment, but when it comes to them making a change in their life…that will take years, months, if ever. These same people can't see how they can take charge of their life and make a change in an instant for the positive.
A moment is defined by the meaning we give it. Not your family, friends, co-workers, or strangers on the street. The meaning that is given to a moment comes from you.
I will show you the strategies and insight you will need to allow you to re-examine those moments in your life and create the life you want. To help you look at that moment in your life that has plagued you all this time and re-define it's meaning. To make it something that will strengthen you and guide you to your ultimate destiny. Away from the hurt and the pain. To appreciate all the moments in your life because both work to create someone special and unique.
Within a few sessions you can experience the freedom you've been looking for.